Monday Musings: Of Fools, Failures, and Flames

Happy April Fool’s Day!  Sometimes I think I should adopt this as my own personal holiday, as I way too often end up feeling foolish.  Let’s start with the fact that I haven’t blogged here for an entire month!  March is kind of a blur to me.

My classes ended on Friday, so most of my March was spent frantically trying to get everything done and turned in.  I managed to do so for my Individualized Studies Seminar, which was extremely important since that class is what determines my entire degree program and what I need to do in order to earn my Bachelor’s degree.  But my other class, Research Methods, is where another incidence of feeling foolish comes in.  I did not realize when I registered that pretty much the entire point of the class is to come up with a research proposal that I can use for my degree.  And since I had not completely figured out my degree, that posed a bit of a problem.  Eventually, it was decided that I would use this research proposal as a marketing study for an Independent Learning Contract in the Fall term, but that decision was made so late in the term that getting my proposal done before the end of it was extremely problematic.  So I had to feel foolish once again, and beg my professor for an Incomplete and extra time to finish it.  She has been very kind in granting me an extension until May 5th.

So along with this foolishness, there comes a sense of failure.  Not only did I not get my project for school done in time, but my plans for my business came to a screeching halt during this first quarter of this year.  I had many plans at the beginning of the year, and very few accomplishments thus far.  I’ve let so many things fall by the wayside: my One Hit Wonder Project, my Five By Five/Fifty posts, my gratitude lists… it’s really easy to look at all the things I haven’t done and feel like I’ve failed.

But you know it’s not like me to dwell on the negative.  I truly believe the saying that you haven’t failed until you quit trying.  Then I found this blog post: How to Never Fail at Anything, Ever Again (John’s got some great stuff, so go read that and check out the rest of his blog).  Basically, the idea is to couch everything as an experiment.  “If your goal is to experiment and learn something, it’s pretty hard to fail.”  This is a rather powerful idea, and right up the alley of my wonderful brain that loves to mix creativity and logic.  If an experiment doesn’t work, I have still learned something.  If a plan I’ve made gets derailed, it hasn’t failed, it’s just been postponed or modified.

And we have learned that when I make plans, the universe likes to take the opportunity to laugh at me.  I guess I am the universe’s fool.  But I don’t like feeling like a failure, so I’m going to take steps to erase that word from my vocabulary.  First, I will make commitments to my overall projects, but not any particular schedule, because I’ve learned that things will happen to prevent me from keeping it.  I will experiment with doing things on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis, but I will give myself choices within that framework that range from quick and simple to much more complex, so I have a chance of completing something when I have less time and energy, and can concentrate on the “big stuff” when I have more time and energy.  For example, the One Hit Wonder Project is extremely complex, requiring multiple posts and page updates as well as research, while posting a few Simple Charm Necklaces is pretty easy.  I have several ideas for revamping my projects, but I’ll save those for another post.

I’ve talked about fools and failures, so you’re probably wondering where the flames comes in.  Well, I have been talking with my hair dresser about making my hair look like “dark flames” for awhile now, and yesterday was our first experiment with it.  The main color is called Mahogany Blonde, so I guess I’m a blonde now, though this is still obviously red.  She added red and orange streaks underneath, and added some layers to the back so they’d peek through.  The pictures taken inside don’t really do it justice, and we’ll likely be adding more streaks and layers in round two of the experiment, but I’m pretty please with the results.  The natural wave in my hair adds to the flame effect, as you can see in this first picture:

Wondie's Flame Hair - Pic 1

Wondie’s Flame Hair – Pic 1

This one shows some of the streaks better:

Wondie's Flame Hair - Pic 2

Wondie’s Flame Hair – Pic 2

But the pics taken outside in the sun REALLY show off the color better:

Wondie's Flame Hair - Pic 3

Wondie’s Flame Hair – Pic 3

So I guess when the sun shines on my hair, it really bursts into flames!

Wondie's Flame Hair - Pic 4

Wondie’s Flame Hair – Pic 4

And those of you who follow my personal Facebook and believed I meant that I went “real” blonde, I guess you got your April Fool’s joke a day early. ;)

365 Days of Gratitude: February 26th – March 1st

Hmmm, the last thing I posted said “we haven’t killed each other yet” and then I disappear for a few days.  Gee, that’s just a little ominous!  But truthfully, I’ve just been busy, trying to get an early start on things each day so I’ve kind of forgotten to make a post here.  So once again, we’ll play a little catch-up.

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Getting my car all taken care of, and paying less than I thought I would.  Have I mentioned how awesome my mechanic is?  Seriously, if you are anywhere near Antrim, New Hampshire, go to Chuck’s Auto Repair.  They do maintenance work too, I got my oil changed and my state inspection done this week.  A few months ago, they also managed to replace a headlight bulb without taking the whole front end apart, which everything I read online about my car said would need to be done.  What would have taken several hours and cost me hundreds of dollars anywhere else was just a $12 part at Chuck’s.
  2. $2 grab bags of Valentine’s clearance items at Michaels.  Sure, there was some unusable (to me) junk in there, but just the one tray I found in there originally retailed for around $10 so I think I got an amazing deal.
  3. Getting template spreadsheets made up so doing my taxes next year won’t be nearly the hassle it’s been this year, as I realized I wasn’t doing my accounting in a way that would make figuring out my taxes easy.  Live and learn!
  4. Getting some answers to my questions about what classes I will need to complete in order to get my Bachelor’s degree.  At this point, it looks like I have ten or eleven classes left to take.  More than I wanted, but at least I have things mapped out a bit better now.
  5. Several answers to the question “Any brilliant ideas for using the cherry rum?”  My housemate is a professional bartender, so asking him these kinds of questions generally ends up with yummy results.  This week we’ve had a variation of a Mai Tai, Cherry Kool-aid (this one is dangerous… you don’t realize there’s any alcohol in it), and Fruit Punch.
  6. Fast deliveries of oil, even during a snowstorm.
  7. This week’s snowstorm was mixed with rain, so we didn’t have too much of an added layer of snow.  Things were very goopy, though, and I’m glad I didn’t have to go out in it.  My husband did, and it took him about two hours to make the usual one hour and fifteen minute commute.
  8. My husband made it through the audit at work, and now his stress level will be greatly reduced.  Until the next one, at least. :P
  9. Not having burst into tears myself as my own stress levels have been pushed to the limits.  I hate feeling like I’m letting people down because I can’t get everything done as fast as I would like.  I’m trying to learn how to better estimate how long things will take me to get done but I haven’t had a lot of success at that yet.
  10. An afternoon nap when insomnia has me up at 3am.
  11. Always being able to find things I’m grateful for, even on my worst days.
  12. Anyone who actually reads what I write.  And if any of this helps remind anyone to look at the things in their life that they are grateful for, and to live more positively, so much the better! :)

365 Days of Gratitude: February 25th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Making it through TWO phone calls!  I had a telephone conference with one of my professors (which is nerve wracking enough in and of itself) and I had to call and cancel my old bank account because they’re changing everything over to new types of accounts and it was no longer going to be free for me, since I can’t do minimum balances or direct deposits.  Mini-rant: banks that require direct deposits discriminate against self-employed people!  I need to make another call today to make an appointment to get my car inspected, but at least that’s someone I’ve talked to before.  Plus my mechanics are awesome, if you live anywhere near Antrim, NH, I highly recommend Chuck’s Auto Repair.
  2. Everyone who responded to my interview questions.  You are all awesome and I’ve enjoyed reading your answers!  I can now finish that assignment, plus I will be starting my Featured Friend Friday series with the answers I’ve received in the order I received them (seems the most fair that way).  Please keep them coming!
  3. Six months of wedded bliss. :)   We’ve made it through half a year as a married couple, and we haven’t killed each other yet!

Want To Be Featured On This Blog? Here’s Some Interview Questions

For an assignment in one of my college classes, I was asked to interview people in the field I’m majoring in: e-Commerce and Internet Marketing.  I thought this might be a good thing to use for my Featured Friend Friday series as well, so if you have an online business or offer internet marketing services, I’d love to hear from you and feature you on this blog.  Here are the questions, just send your answers to rewondered@gmail.com and I’ll let you know when I’ll be posting them!

 

Background

1. Please introduce yourself and your business.

2. How did you get started in your business?

3. What was your education? What educational background or related experience do you think would be most helpful to someone wanting to start their own online business?

 

Work Environment

4. Describe your work environment. (Attach pictures of your studio/office if you want!)

5. What is your typical work schedule? (Daily/Weekly/Monthly)

6. Describe your typical day.

7. What skills/abilities do you use to operate your business?

8. What websites/venues do you use to operate/market your business? (Please provide links!)

9. What other tools do you use to operate/market your business?

 

Lifestyle

10. What obligation does your business put on you outside of the work week?

11. How much flexibility do you have in terms of work hours and vacations?

12. How do you balance your work with your life?

 

Problems

13. What are the toughest problems you deal with in your business?

14. How do you overcome these problems?

15. What problems does the industry as a whole have?

16. What is being done to solve these problems? What do you think can/should be done to solve them?

 

Rewards

17. What do you find most rewarding about your work?

18. Are you able to pay yourself a salary? If so, how long were you in business before you could pay yourself? How do you determine your salary?

 

Potential

19. Where do you see yourself going in the next few years?

20. What are our long term goals?

 

The Industry

21. What trends do you see for this industry in the next 3 to 5 years?

 

Advice

22. What advice would you give someone wanting to start their own online business?

23. What resources would you recommend (blogs, websites, professional organizations, trade publications, books, software, tools, other people, etc.)?

24. Any other advice?

 

Permissions

25. Do I have your permission to share your answers to these questions on my blog? If so, are there any answers you do NOT want shared?

365 Days of Gratitude: February 21st through 24th, 2013

Missed a few days, so time to play catch up again!

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Getting my errands done before the snowballs began raining from the sky.
  2. The power only flickered, we never actually lost power.
  3. Margaritas.  Because the movies were bad enough WITH the booze, I don’t think I could have watched them completely sober. :P
  4. Homemade hummus and guacamole.  Have I mentioned how much I enjoy living with a professional cook?
  5. Finding nifty apps for my Droid that will help me with my business.
  6. Finding fascinating articles and research on consumer behavior and online shopping, which will help me with my own research project.  That’s right, I’m trying to get into your brain!  Mwahahaha!  :P   (It’s for school, but it will beneficial to the business as well.)
  7. Sellers who give prompt refunds for items that never arrived.  I ordered two items from one seller but only one of the items was in the package when it arrived.  The second item was out of stock, so they refunded my money.  Unfortunately, I am still dealing with another seller who has told me twice they are processing my refund for the missing package (my order got split into two packages but only one arrived) but I still have not got my money back.
  8. Sellers who don’t hassle me about an item not being as described, and go out of their way to make it right.  I bought something from one seller who had one size in their item title and another in their description, which I didn’t notice until the item arrived.  I pointed out that the I was expecting the size in the title, but I also realized my mistake in not clarifying the discrepancy in the description.  The seller offered to refund half my money and let me keep the item, which is more than fair.  Unfortunately, I’m dealing with another seller who sent me plastic instead of glass beads and informs me it’s impossible that they made a mistake.
  9. Sellers who understand that “combined shipping” means a discount on shipping everything together, not just adding up all the individual shipping charges.
  10. Not buying the fabric marker that had “Do Not Allow To Freeze” on the label, since I left it in my car overnight.  Oops.  This one should be okay though.
  11. Classes that don’t require textbooks.  Because $250 for a book is ridiculous.
  12. Getting things done, slowly but surely.  I will eventually get caught up!

365 Days of Gratitude: February 20th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Having someone who is “more important” and being that someone for him.
  2. Our daily phone calls.  We’re both rather stressed right now, but having that connection helps to keep us grounded.
  3. Hearing him laugh.

Yeah, yeah, I know.  It’s another “grateful for my husband” post.  Deal with it. :P

365 Days of Gratitude: February 19th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Hugs.
  2. The 14 listeners who sat through the 31 minute Rick Astley medley without complaint. :P
  3. Age really is just a number. :)

365 Days of Gratitude: February 18th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. President’s Day sales.  Both JoAnn’s and Michael’s had % off total purchase coupons, including sale prices, so I got some really excellent deals.
  2. Finding a TON of discontinued patterns at a local fabric store for $1-$3 each.  I know I spent way too much in total, but these will be a wonderful foundation for my future costume designs.  I view patterns like recipes: a great starting point that you can substitute and spice up to your own tastes.  I often will incorporate three or four patterns into one finished design to get the look I’m trying to achieve.  So one pattern may end up being used for several different designs.
  3. My husband’s understanding that a supply run is going to take me all day.  Part of that is I live in a small town that’s at least a 40 minute drive from anywhere I can go shopping, so I always try and hit several stores in the area I’m going to, to make the trip more cost effective gas-wise.  Add in that I can easily spend an hour or two in each store looking around and trying to decide what I can really afford to get… so yeah, he rarely expects me to get home before 10pm.  And that’s only because most of the stores close at 9pm. :P

365 Days of Gratitude: February 17th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Getting all caught up in one of my classes.  Two related assignments left for the other one.  Almost there!
  2. Going to the grocery store by way of the diner.  My husband has brilliant ideas!  Breakfast was delicious, and we definitely didn’t go to the store when we were hungry. :P
  3. My brilliant idea: if we’re having fajitas for dinner, we should also have margaritas.

365 Days of Gratitude: February 16th, 2013

(If you’re not sure what this is all about, please read the first post)

I’m grateful for:

  1. Getting all my research articles sorted out and whittled down to a much more manageable number than 500ish.  Remember me complaining about not finding anything for that assignment last term?  Yeah, totally not having that problem now.
  2. My red-framed glasses.  My prescription is such that it’s impossible to make bifocals for me, so I have a special pair for when I’m doing a lot of close-up looking, like reading and staring at the computer screen.  I can’t see past about 3 feet with them, but they keep me from getting a headache like I would doing this much reading with my regular glasses.
  3. Leftovers.  Because when you look at the clock and realize it’s almost 9pm and you haven’t eaten since breakfast, it’s really nice to be able to just heat something up in the microwave and be eating in a manner of minutes.
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